Using The Secret

Whether you sense it or not, every instant, you attract people, events, health, wealth and relationships into your life. Its possible that not all of the people who appear or events that unfold are the best choices for your soul.

You get what you think about, consciously and unconsciously. If these thoughts aren’t aligned, then it may seem you don’t attract exactly what you want, but you do. As you come to discern what is desirable or undesireable at a given time, you can learn to intuit what works or doesn’t work for you.

Its like you are a living and breathing magnet. This means the ideas you focus on, you will bring to yourself. Consider how you can imagine what you desire, and then act to facilitate the outcome. This is a strategy to attract what you want. How much time do you commit to thinking about what you desire? The more time and energy you devote, the more intense your desire, the more you concentrate on making it happen.

In the same way, when you focus on what you don’t want, you attract precisely what you don’t want. When your mind lingers on a situation that bothers you, you could subconsciously perpetuate the very thing you would consciously like to disappear. Since you get what you wish for, then the result is a clue to how well you really know yourself.

Humans are enormously powerful energy forces. You can use this intense power to attract more of what you want in life. Simply pay attention to how you think and feel. You are or will become what you think about. Its only your own doubt and negative thinking that could potentially prevent you from getting what you desire. What will it require for you to believe unconditionally in your potential?

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The man who was interested in precious jewlery on on-line auctions informed me he realizes the significance of his recent change of heart. He was initially attracted to these electronic events with thoughts of taking a shortcut to buy a special object. Although these auctions have a certain purpose, they don’t satisfy his own. He referred to the law of attraction because he believed he was inviting a great deal into his life. Now, he sees this in completely different way. He believes he was inviting lessons into his life so he could find what he really wants.

This man has since begun to recognize a process of self-discovery. He sees the auction as representing a wake up call for what he didn’t want. He didn’t want an item without seeing and touching it. He didn’t want to buy something supposedly precious without valuation certificates. He didn’t want to deal with a company without a solid reputation. He didn’t wish to deal with a broker with a questionable return policy that had been criticized. Through a process of elimination, he deduced what he didn’t want and made leaps and strides toward what he truly does.

As the result, he has investigated other options and discovered a reputable company with personable staff. He has touched and seen prospective items to buy that suit his purpose. He has redefined the value of personable, professional service in the country in which he lives. He is leaning toward becoming a client with a company that has life-long follow-up service and on-site repairs. He has met people and developed trust. He made an appointmetn to view other merchandise. The exciting process continues.

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If asked about a basic instinct, the vast majority of people would respond with ideas concerning “survival.” Yet, consider this idea and related action may undermine your true nature. Basic instinct may be something else entirely. When will you move beyond what you think you know? When will you move beyond imposed, cultural ideas?

Since the Secret encourages you to explore the depths of yourself to discover elements of your own uniqueness, then your basic instinct is actually to permit yourself to evolve. This would involve taking risks that have the potential to stretch you. What you choose not to do for others, you also fail to do for yourself.

What you choose to be is a reflection of yourself because it is chosen by you. Everything you do, every thought and behavior are undertaken for the benefit of yourself. You aim to open your eyes to reality, but you don’t always choose to see. What is fundamentally good for you is also fundamentally beneficial to others.

The idea of listening to your heart, mind and soul about your passions, enables you to detect what other people enter your life to help you see. Everything in life, how you perceive, depends on what you seek to be. This is a way of saying you evolve to admit what you already are. Basic instinct is a clue to help recall your forgotten reality.

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Just when you thought the on-line auction scenario described in two previous posts was over, a new chapter unfolded. The conscience of the prospective jewlery buyer kicked in when he thought what he’d bought was “too good to be true.” He decided to do some in-depth research into high-grade jewlery. Luckily, had had five days to pay for his auction item, and he could still opt not to purchase period.

The nature of the item described on the website where he had apparently won the bidding didn’t make sense when compared with jewlery of similar grades on other sites. At this point, the man has decided not to buy that engagement ring. The valuation wasn’t forthcoming until after the supposed purchase. What if it tuned out to be plastic or a zirconia? What he thought he had as a dream ring doesn’t seem to be the right one after all. Another, more appropriate ring must be “out there.”

The Secret reminds us to follow our instincts and develop confidence in how we feel. Gaining self assurance in one setting goes a long way. This ring scenerio isn’t over. Who knows what might happen next?

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Unconditional love is often understood as showing love towards someone no matter what his or her actions or beliefs. It compares to true love whihc typically describes love involving lovers. In contrast, unconditional love describes love involving anyone in a highly-committed relationship. It has also been used to pin down a universal love that exists within each of us. Its source offers clues to your life purpose.

Unconditional love grows out of self-love. Its a way to become intimately aware of what represents meaning and value to you. All of us, whether consciously or unconsciously, seek to experience unconditional love. This vision begins as an invisible soul quest in your spirit. Life is all about rediscovering who you are, learning to love that and everything around you from the core.

Alas, ego and perceived self-interest can distract us from sources of unconditional love, and thus, also your purpose. We can convince ourselves other people don’t deserve to receive unconditional love from us, and this mindset also distracts us from our meaningful mission. Personalities evolve to experience fear based emotions like greed, jealousy, doubt and anger. Each choice you make is an opportunity to get-to-know yourself better, to rise above negative feelings and come closer to unconditional love and more. It is said birth shocks the system and causes us to forget who and what we are and why we exist at a particular time.

The Secret offers clues to the power of unconditional love. This is more than the learned ability to give and receive love without restraint. It can become more than a theory. Unconditional love is never beyond reach. Its not mere fantasy. People simply forget what they are as well as their potential to learn. Each experience you choose is part of the process that can raise your conscious awareness.

All human thoughts, feelings and actions are motivated by love or fear. You can’t allow them both to control you at once. To love unconditionally is to love without fear. Give up attachment to negative emotions and discover the unlimited positive opportunities at your fingertips. Attract unconditional love with your mindset.

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The man who shared his story about his on-line auction frustrations filled me in on a the outcome of events. He finally decided he should log off his computer from a jewlery auction site. He had apparently had more than enough.

You may recall I shared his story about bidding on engagement rings for the woman he hopes to marry. When he was first referred to one auction bidding site, it was to search out technical equipment. At that point, he spent lots of time but didn’t find what he wanted. He decided on-line auctions were a waste of time. Remember how everything that happens is actually preparing us for things we don’t foresee?

When the same man discovered the jewlery auction, he was intrigued yet, had a hard time. He placed a few bids, but felt nervous. He doubted his chances so he forgot to follow up before those auctions closed. Later, he encountered aggressive bidders who would raise prices midstream or last minute to win. His visions of bidding wars seemed to invite them in, and caused him to feel like he wasn’t meant to get what he wanted.

I encouraged him to rethink the power of intention inside himself. He proceeded to reach in and find those hidden sources of determination, and self-confidence that renewed his sense of a purpose-driven life. He went to sleep and told himself the next day would be a new day. Indeed it was.

The next morning, when he checked the bids on three rings he was following, the prices had increased. He opted not to rebid on two and decided to wait on the third. After all, it was his partner’s second preference. Through watching how people bid, he learned if a competing bidder was watching multiple bids, then that person would pay attention to the periodically changing prices and be less likely to notice bids changing last minute. In a nutshell, he decided not to start a bidding war early because this draws attention and raises prices quickly. Engagement ring bidding can be fierce. The man learned first-hand.

This in mind, he waited until there were 16 seconds left on the bid for the key ring and he raised his bid 25$. The clock resets at 15 seconds. Miraculously, after 42 bids had been placed, the man won the auction and obtained the ring for less than 10% of its retail value. Apparently, both he and his partner are in a state of shock. The man redefined ‘where there’s a will, there’s a way.’ Last I heard, the couple was planning where the real engagement will take place. Perhaps angels already have a Higher plan?

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The Secret tells us everything happens for a reason, that every unfolding event is closely connected. How often does your mindset follow suit? I mean, do you perceive and accept hardships with optimism and obstacles as ways to work through challenges? Or, are you easily discouraged if your plans fall through and comfortable routine is disrupted?

Consider a man I met 20 years ago who was convinced his destiny was to be a machine operator in a coal mine. He had basic education and learned the trade. When he worked in the field, he mastered a number of skills. After a time, he sensed his work became mundane and he was no longer challenged. He wanted to do other things, but also felt stuck. His financial commitments and own discouraging mindset held him back. He didn’t think he had what it took to do what he really desired. He used his background and history as excuses to explain why he shouldn’t believe in himself.

Then, out of the blue, the mining company shut down and made him redundant. It was a difficult time for my friend. This event threw him for a loop, but he now believes it was the best thing that could ever have happened to him. He was out of a job and he decided to finally pursue the line of work that had long interested him. He dreamed of attending university and becoming a licensed physiotherapist.

Cleary, his new goals represented many kinds of challenges for him–financial, psychological, professional, cultural, hierarchical (in a class-oriented society) and others. Yet, the universe still turned his world upside down in part because this is the path he truly wanted to follow. He wasn’t and still isn’t an especially spiritual person. Yet, he has come to believe that how we think can have an incredibly positive impact on our lives.

Somehow, this man managed to obtain the loans and other funding to work through his dream degree. He developed a ‘can-do’ attitude he hadn’t had before. As the result of hard work and determination, he has since evolved to become the chief physiotherapist in his region. Looking back, he reflects on his life choices and experiences in disbelief. He better understands hidden benefits to developing the skills he did as a coal miner. He considers his sacrifices, recurrent health problems (especially back injuries), and hardships were all preparing him to become a more effective physiotherapist. He empathizes well with his patients and relates personally to many physical plights and processes of recovery. He knows now that each experience he has had was for good reason.

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A man approached me with a story. He expressed frustration about failing to hold a winning bid for an engagement ring from on-line auctions. He thought he had found the pefect ring on one site, but after bidding, forgot to check in on final bids before the item was sold. He lost out. Then, he discovered another site which seemed like it would empower him to realize his dreams of buying that special ring for his girlfriend.

Before long however, this man sensed a jeweler might be bidding on the most desirable rings. The same buyer appeared to be bidding high and getting most of them. The man seeking to find a ring for his future spouse became rather dismayed and discouraged. He told me he sensed maybe forces were against him? He had after all, placed considerable hopes on finding an affordable diamond ring through these on-line auctions.

I invited the frustrated man to rethink the scenario. The Secret reminds us to direct energy toward desirable situations rather than focus on negative energy. For example, I asked this person to consider the possibility that he didn’t get one of the rings he thought he wanted because Higher Forces had already arranged for him to get the ring that was most suitable for him. I asked him to consider the idea that maybe he hadn’t yet seen what was really meant for him. I invited him to be grateful he hadn’t gotten a ring he thought he wanted. Won’t it be wonderful to get what was meant for him?

This man began to realize that he had been limiting himself to his view of what was most appropriate and affordable. He also took note that he became increasingly stressed as bidding came down to the wire. He let himself get worried that he wouldn’t be able to afford the ring he liked if the price rose, which it proceeded to do. From time-to-time, he would give up, temporarily losing faith in himself.

Yet, deep down, this man confided he thought he would succeed in obtaining the ring that was perfect for him to buy. An underlying faith he had in himself motivated him not to give up. By exerting effort, intending the universe to cooperate, and hoping for Higher Forced to help, he believed he would achieve more positive results. He worked harder to redirect energy from negative thoughts. That energy is better used elsewhere.

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The core of yourself is something you can identify and isolate. It may take time for you to realize your condition and how your emotions shape your view of where you are and where you would like to be. What would it take for you to enjoy tranquility or peace of mind? Ask yourself what you don’t want or need anymore. At what point will your journey evolve from the normal and familiar into the unknown?

You will know your path by the state of mind it typifies. When you’re not looking for it, you’ll find it. You can stray into a garden of serenity and only stay there as long as you decide it will be real. You will know when you sense as though you enter another world, this secret life, you had been seeking. What are your secrets?

Know in advance what you’re getting into. It’s amazing how differently people react to change. You’re taking risks and making other decisions that will positively impact the rest of your life. You can redefine your understanding of normal. Each of us is a work in progress, always adjusting. Be your most captive audience.

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“And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too – even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling”. -Mitch Albom

How often do you arrive at a point in your life where you’re unsure if you’re coming or going? Whenever this happens, its helpful to step back, inhale, exhale, then reflect. When was the last time you had a real plan? If you would like people to trust your judgement about what is good for you, and perhaps your family, then you first need to learn to trust yourself. This isn’t something you learn by reading a book. It’s a life skill you learn by taking risks and also by living with the consequences.

Sure, books can help you open your mind to possibilities you hadn’t thought about before. This can be a good thing. Yet, The Secret to living a better life involves learning how to read into yourself, your emotions, your vibes and intuition. you can read about love, but your impression of that experience can be very different in the real world involving real people. Your imagination will always project the experiences you think you deserve. When you feel unhappy about some outcome, what does this tell you about how well you know yourself? What does this tell you about opportunities to learn valuable, new things?

No matter what transpires in your life, you can be grateful for the will to explore what works and what doesn’t work. You can choose to trust people and this can turn out well. You can also choose to trust people who betray, harm you or steal from you. These kinds of people probably don’t share your understanding of compassion and trust. Yet, these are also the sort of people who most need to learn compassion and trust. Repeated rejection contributes to who they are. As you learn to trust yourself, or refine the nature of your trust, this has implications for more than just your own future.

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